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| PART 1 – Emotional Self Awareness |
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For each item listed below, please indicate how well it describes the way you currently think or feel about yourself. |
this describes me... |
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moderately well |
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I can name my feelings |
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I’ve learned a lot about myself by listening to my feelings |
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I am aware of my feelings most of the time |
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I can tell when I am getting upset |
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When I am sad, I know the reason(s) why |
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I tend to judge myself by how I think others see me |
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I enjoy my emotional life |
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People who show a lot of strong emotion scare me |
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I often wish I were someone else |
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I pay attention to my physical state to understand my feelings |
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I accept my feelings as my own |
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| PART 2 – Emotional Expression |
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For each item listed below, please indicate how well it describes the way you currently think or feel about yourself. |
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I let other people know when they are doing a good job |
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I express my emotions even when they are negative |
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I let others know what I want and need |
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My closest friends would say I express my appreciation of them |
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I keep my feelings to myself |
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I let people know when uncomfortable feelings get in the way of our work |
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I have trouble reaching out to others when I need help |
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In interacting with others, I can sense how they are feeling |
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I would do anything to avoid looking foolish to my peers |
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| PART 3 – Emotional Awareness of others Emotions |
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For each item listed below, please indicate how well it describes the way you currently think or feel about yourself. |
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I can recognise emotions in others by watching their eyes |
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I find it difficult to talk to people who do not share my views |
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I focus on people’s positive qualities |
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I rarely have the urge to tell someone off |
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I think about how others might feel before I give my opinion |
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No matter with whom I am speaking, I am always a good listener |
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I can sense the mood of a group when I walk into a room
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I can get new people I meet to talk about themselves |
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I am good at “reading between the lines” when someone is talking |
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I can usually tell how others feel about me |
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I can sense someone’s feelings even if it is unspoken |
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I change my emotional expression depending upon the person I am with |
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I can tell when someone close to me is upset |
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| PART 4 - Resilience |
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Think about...the past month. For each item below, please indicate how well the statement describes your behaviour or intention. |
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I can bounce back after feeling disappointed |
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I can accomplish what I need to if I put my mind to it |
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Obstacles or problems in my life have resulted in unexpected changes for the better |
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I find it easy to wait patently when I need to |
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There is always more than one right answer |
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I know how to satisfy all parts of myself |
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I am not one to procrastinate
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I am afraid to try something again when I have failed at it before |
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I decide certain problems are not worth worrying about |
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I relax myself when tension builds up |
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I can see the humorous side of situations |
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I often put things aside for a while to get a perspective on them |
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When I encounter a problem, I focus on what I can do to solve it |
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| PART 5 – Interpersonal Connection |
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Think about...the past month. For each item below, please indicate how well the statement describes your behaviour or intention. |
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I am able to grieve when I lose something important to me |
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I feel uncomfortable when someone gets too close to me emotionally |
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I have several friends I can count on in times of trouble |
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I show a lot of love and affection to my friends |
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When I have a problem I know who to go to or what to do to help solve it |
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My beliefs and values guide my daily actions |
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My family is always there for me when I need them
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I doubt if my colleagues really care about me as a person |
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I have a difficult time making friends |
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I hardly cry |
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| PART 6 – Constructive Discontent |
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Think about...the past month. For each item below, please indicate how well the statement describes your behaviour or intention. |
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I can disagree effectively to bring about change |
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I would not express my feelings if I believed they would cause a disagreement |
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When it comes right down to it, I can only trust myself to get things done |
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I remain calm even in situations when others get angry |
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It is better not to stir up problems if you can avoid doing so |
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I have a hard time getting consensus from my work team |
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I solicit feedback from my peers on my performance
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I am good at organizing and motivating groups of people |
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I enjoy the challenge of facing and solving problems at work |
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I listen to criticism with an open mind and accept it when it is justified |
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I let things build up to a crisis point before talking about it |
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When I make a critical comment, I focus on the behaviour and not the person |
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I avoid confrontations |
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| PART 7 - Compassion |
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Think about...the past month. For each item below, please indicate how well the statement describes your behaviour or intention. |
this describes me... |
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I can see pain in others even if they don’t talk about it |
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I am able to read people’s emotionsfrom their body language |
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I act ethically in my dealings with people |
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I would not hesitate to go out of my way to help someone in trouble |
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I take the feelings of others into consideration in my interactions with them |
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I can put myself in someone else’s shoes |
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There are some people I’ve never forgiven
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I can forgive myself for not being perfect |
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When I succeed at something, I often feel I could have done better |
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I help others to save face in a tough situation |
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I constantly worry about my shortcomings |
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I am jealous of people who have more than I do |
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| Check Your Score |
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Note:
The elements mentioned above address various critical aspects of Emotional Intelligence. Your score on the above answer key indicates your level of prowess on each aspect. |
